Lately, I have come across a few wedding videos. Not to mention, my good guy friends around me are getting attached. Oh ho, yes, the feeling is really getting to me. It doesn’t help that marriage and a happy family are some of my top goals. In fact, it’s number 3 and 4 on the top ten goal list.
The science/art of attraction is one that has always eluded me. It’s not any other form of activity out there. There is much more uncertainly in it than anything else I have endeavoured to do. You can give a girl all the flowers in the world and she still won’t look your way. Yet some people come together just by a stroke of luck. Attraction seems to be based on a weird push-pull factor that is as intriguing as is confusing. I believe I would make a good partner, I probably just don’t know how to convince the opposite gender.
Then again, there is also the factor about me finding someone I believe suitable for me. I watched THAT Steve Jobs Stanford speech. The one where he says, ” keep looking, don’t settle”. Finding a someone suitable for myself, while not easy, is not even half the battle. And THEN, after you find that someone, you have to convince her of your worth. Talk about effort. If these weren’t my goals number 3 and 4, I won’t probably make the effort. I haven’t even begun talking about the extreme luck factor too!
Still, like other things, if it were easy, it probably won’t be worth doing. “… we do these other things, not because they are easy, but because they are hard.” I believe a happy family of my own is a worthy and fulfilling goal to strive for (oh, it had better be). Looks like I have to be patient and learn more about the attraction kung fu.
In the meantime, I’ll be preparing myself to be able to provide for my family in the future. Love is the base of all happy families, but you can’t be all that happy if you see your wife and kids hungry all the time. In addition, I want to raise my kids better than how my father raised me. Not that he did a bad job, mind you. (Yeah, he reads this). I just want to be better. Constant improvement makes the world go round. That’s one of the reasons why I study psychology. It really helps to understand how people and little kids think and how to shape them into better people.
Before I end off, to the ladies reading this… any friends you want to recommend? =)
Let’s keep in touch! Do reply me and tell me how you are. Whatever you do, don’t forget me.